March 19, 2013

It Is So Icky!

How often I have wanted to gather your children together as a hen protects her chicks beneath her wings, but you wouldn't let me. Matthew 23:37
Look, your house is left to you desolate. I tell you, you will not see me again until you say, 'Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.'" Luke 13:35
No, I will not abandon you as orphans--I will come to you. John 14:18


With God as our witness, standing before a crowd of family and friends, men and women come together daily promising to never leave or forsake each other as long as they both shall live.  And yet they leave breaking promises and pummeling hopes, dreams, commitments and the abilities of those in the wreckage to painstakingly attempt to trust in safe people ever again. 

I will never leave you nor forsake you is what our vows say – Hmmmm, haven’t I heard that promise somewhere before?  Oh, that’s right…….God said it.  This is HIS promise unto each of us.  God is not a masochist; He knows we cannot uphold relationship commitments by sheer grit.   We are made in His image; and we are ABLE to do this …..Because He lives.  Don’t you get it?  If we could do it without God, then He would not get to be intimate with people.  Not physically, because He doesn't have a body like ours. He created a loop hole though; He lives in this world now INSIDE us!  Again, don’t miss this:  It is not US who won’t leave people destitute.  It is God within us; we simply must allow His will to mature us.  But our weak will cringes at thoughts of the Spirit: having to put up with all the icky, sticky, goo of close relationships. God said He wants to wrap us under wing...some people would think that is terribly suffocating!

I had someone say to me once, “ I won’t leave you destitute.” It appeared that they felt this should be something to trust as if to ease my hurt.  This left me scratching my head in bewilderment……I said to myself, “Do they not realize destitute means left forsaken.  What does that mean; you won’t leave me - destitute?  I’m obviously not a rocket scientist, but what this person communicated was that they WERE LEAVING……and therefore any physical token tossed my way to comfort their guilt would not articulate trustworthy.  
We have discussed many times that we can only do our part – this is the reason God tells us, “Be at peace as far as it depends on YOU.”   No one can repair or reconcile a relationship without a reciprocating “you” involved; agreed?  If someone does not desire peace “with others” then they only desire comfort for them self.  The reason we get confused at times, is because some of the things others receive comfort from happens when they comfort us.  Maybe this is the reason for all the proverbs in regard to the deceptions of our feelings.    Comfort is the nemesis to maturityespecially in our maturity within Christ’s body, click link if you want more information.
The scripture from today, is the perfect example of the Love God desires to lavish on everyone.  But as we see, not everyone wants to REALLY be loved.  Who knows all the reasons why they find it terribly uncomfortable to stay close, really let others in.  So they leave;  It does hurt and it even harms them, us and anyone else entangled. And, it deeply grieves the Holy Spirit, but they say no anyway......And God keeps trying anyway.....and as trying as it is, we must keep try relying on Him.
Before we even knew Him or loved him He promised that when He had to go for a bit, to remember that we ARE His beloved, not a destitute no one. It feels so wonderful to be safely loved that we attempt to love others this way....because it's freaky awesome!   But not everyone trusts that we will stay and love them even when they are icky.  Just as they don't want God too close they will not want you there either, not if you intimately love them through and through.  Do you know why?  Because it is God loving them...not you (remember).  So, we must have boundaries, because we are peacemakers. 
We cannot force peace because then it is not kindness, it is controlling.   Do not allow yourself to be verbally bullied either, you are a peacemaker; not a mute point.   If you are attempting to relate with immaturity (or call it whatever you wish) it will repeatedly verbally and sometime physically desire to push you out the door, so to speak.  We do not have to take part in destroying relationships, but to not speak the truth in love also destroys intimacy.  As we stated, the old saying “If you don’t have something NICE to say don’t say anything at all, creates fake friends. 

My thoughts for this week are:

Don’t be pushed around, your peace is from within you.  Don’t take part in destroying lives which are woven into your relationship:  Be stable, Be reliable, Be trustworthy, Be FAITHFUL!

If you are blessed to be in close proximity to an unsafe person, remember it is easy to want to think the problems go away if you just get new people around you.  If God desires your space for a bit, let Him use it - you just might get to help someone find out that the icky, sticky, gooey space is the actual “safety rail” keeping them from falling off into the land of the lonely and unloved.

Be brave my courageous peacemakers!  We live in a war zone, no matter how proper it may appear. Don’t just say and do the “right things” say and do the really hard things because it’s righteousness oozing out of you.  And lastly, remember:  With God as your witness, in all you say and do…..simultaneously you are His witness that He is alive and well in YOU!   

This is why where Christ is there is liberty, so honor your commitments – Don’t leave God forsaken!

In Love with Christ,

Kisses,
Candace

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