October 7, 2015

Come On; I'm A Sprinter!

Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. ~ Colossians 3:12-14

We have discussed in the past, that loving others is not an option, we are to love everyone. That being said, thank God we do not have to live with everyone, or it would be much more impossible. Sometimes I jokingly refer to the relationships we don't have to live with, or those not under our roof,  as the relational "sprints". The weakest of runners can handle a sprint from time to time. It is easier to grab and pass the baton of light and lovely thoughts, with those who only interact with us during short spurts of time. 

At times those relational sprints take place with the same people over a long period of time, building a type of endeared community; however, we cannot compare it as relational apples to apples.  There are complexities which those under one roof must endure if they are to remain together. Although the relational sprints we develop can be dear to us, they can also distort an individuals ability to see them selves clearly, regarding those they do have to live with.

For example: The expectation and authentic need of sharing of your feelings, hopes and desires in healthy ways are avoidable,unlike in our homes.  We now become liberated to act and say whatever we feel is in our best interest, which encourages the fellow team mates to think we are a super swell individual.  So of course, in the community when we act against our public persona, we can claim "we are having a bad day", and everyone moves on easily.  Why? Because they do not have the insiders data on us, it is only for a sprint, a pass of the baton.....and then we go home to our real intimate relationships.

Just as love is not optional, for a Christian, neither is the forgiving.  Most people do not understand that forgiving a person and having a reconciled relationship are two different things.  If someone will not admit there is a problem which needs to be forgiven, then coming to them, in sincerity, to offer a gift of forgiveness is senseless.  It would be much like having floor mats custom made, as a gift, and eagerly bringing them to someone who is adamant that the car in their driveway isn't theirs; nor do they ever care to drive a car.  This is how wanting to forgive someone who assumedly, unlike yourself,  deems themselves cleared on a matter, leaves you stuck in the mud or spinning out.

Fortunately, God dealt with this dilemma.  Forgiveness is about what God desires, not man.  It began with Him, comes from Him, and displays Him when/if  we chose to extend it.  In conversations with individuals, they tell me they cannot forget what has happened to them and they can't seem to find it within them selves to forgive.  Believe me when I type, I understand this dilemma, the ability to forgive, what cannot be forgotten, is not within my ability either.   Yet I have done it, again and again and again and again, because I know the one who forgave me when He was dealing with the dilemma my choices created. It is Him within me, His power, in my inabilities which are the strength offering such a perfectly, loving, kind, generous, undeserved gift.

Understanding the magnitude of this gift, we must talk about this: Just because you chose to forgive someone does not mean you will not remember, grieve loss, become angry about injustice or any other normal expression of wrong done. Forgiveness is not optional, but it is our personal choice

When we desire to forgive and ask God for the ability to repent of any wrong we have done and forgive another person, we will loose the desire to be malicious toward the person.  We can speak of things without having to blame or accuse them.  Of course we cannot forget something which needs to be addressed, but forgiving them keeps us from injuring our self or others as we continue to live under one roof.  We also begin to express the heart of God and Christ's image become more and more visible within our homes and communities.

While being at peace with everyone as far as it depends on us doesn't always accomplish popularity, I pray that God give us all something much more fitting: the ability to ask for our self and others to repent and be reconciled to Him.   And IF it be His will, at His perfect time to allow the relationships we have with each other to glorify Him. Maybe even give us all a cross country team t-shirt (just kidding).

Hopefully, we will go deeper into this topic, next time.  Only God knows the plans He has for us all!

With love and prayers for us all, in Christ.

© 2015 by Candace Huffmaster
 Kaleidoscope Butterfly, Inc ®

October 3, 2015

Newsflash: Hell Isn't Freezing Over

We left off with the following thought and question:

What we know to be truth and do not do, whether we are sick, tired or sick & tired, God knows and it does not matter what the rest of the universe knows, thinks, sees or what ever.  In the situation, will we be humble enough to request that He multiply and be fruitful regarding His image and likeness, and to constantly subdue our human nature, that we might have a hope of becoming what He Divinely created us to be?

Under-girded by this verse from James 4:16 and Philippians 3:21 ending with the last part of the verse:

Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin.
             ....by which He is able even to subdue all things to Himself.

In Philippians 3 we are being told not to forget where we are headed, getting stuck in the muck of troubles here on earth.  We are to wait eagerly for, set our mind on and remember Christ Jesus.  How many times do we get bogged down and hurt waiting on people to do the right thing?  How many times do others sit around "waiting on us" to do the right thing?  Maybe we and others do not understand what the right thing is, and maybe we/they do?

As you know, I believe in giving others the benefit of the doubt.  Do you realize that some people could care less if I/you do or not?  Some are even so bold as to clarify their stance, just in case someone may assume otherwise, by way of statements such as "till hell freezes over".  They want to make it clear, I have no doubt about what I have done, or the way I am; I did it, I'm fine with it, I meant it, and know for sure that hell will never be cooler than it is today.

The reason I bring these things up and out is to help the one who would prefer to stand in the gap hoping for resolve. Some times we do not understand what the right thing to do is; and sometimes we do and don't do it.  The first thing we need to prevent is someone feeling stuck or responsible due to another persons free will. And the last thing we need is for a person to move on without resolving their position.

When there is much back and forth, spinning out of control and/or running away without direction it causes a heck of a mess.  Us and anyone in reach of the slinging icky muck will get splattered. This mud pit wouldn't easily be able to form in our relationships if we understood vital points regarding restoring relationships. Without forgiveness there are only two paths out of the mud slinging: stuff it till the top blows off again, or run far enough away to never see them except in your nightmares.

This is not another conversation regarding forgive and forget.  That is in the archives.  We are not built to forget important things.  We are created for unity, community and love.  But for us
"humans" what we need, what we want, and what we get can be horrible to make peace with; that takes a lot of forgiveness.  For this reason, we need to comprehend real forgiveness.  Most people never really understand what it looks and acts like.

When a person has tried to be at peace, yet every conversation ends in an argument, it is heavy on the heart, mind and soul.  So is defending your position till your head bleeds from banging it on the hard wall other put before you.  I do not really think those sounded like forgiveness to any of us; but we become confused regarding what a peacemaker would look like.  How do we walk away from the wall and refocus on what moving in a different direction might look like.

James MacDonald and Garrett Higbee's book Christ-Centered Biblical Counseling, had a tidbit which I feel may help many people clarify their position. They state that there are things we should consider on the topic of “if” we should forgive someone.  Is the offense too BIG? The larger it is the more quickly we need to get rid of it.  Time does not heal all wounds.  In fact this is a rather LARGE obstacle regarding getting stuck and spinning out.  And over time it simply become tenderer and we protect it from getting bumped.  Waiting for someone to say they are sorry is a ridiculous vehicle to depend on to help us dispose of their trash.  Think about that for a moment……   As James MacDonald states: Newflash: That person isn’t going to apologize!  And if by God’s grace a miracle were to happen and they did, your LARGE obstacle would prevent restoration.

And yes, you may forgive them and they just do it again.  That is why Peter was stumped when Christ mentioned how many times we are to forgive the one who comes to us in sincerity asking for our forgiveness.  The Good news here is this:  saying “sorry” isn’t necessarily asking for forgiveness.  Nor is telling someone they must forgive and forget; that not only shows lack of humility and compassion (archive on this), but it deeply, additionally wounds the person.  

We must realize how to deal with an unrepentant fellow believer.  Your forgiveness is not an open door welcoming multiple offenses. (James MacDonald statement)
This is enough for today, please pray about anything resonating within your heart and mind.  Realize that if you have been spinning your wheels, banging your head or slinging some muck, taking it to God is where you need to begin for direction, not the individual.  Allow Him to counsel you in the presence of His word. 

Read the book of James or 2 Corinthians focusing on chapters 1-5 and we will pick up here next time.

With love and prayers for us all, in Christ.

© 2015 by Candace Huffmaster
 Kaleidoscope Butterfly, Inc ®

September 16, 2015

Well Isn't That Just Perfect!

 These are matters which have, to be sure, the appearance of wisdom in self-made religion and self-abasement and severe treatment of the body, but are of no value against fleshly indulgence.~Colossians 2:23 NASB

The Meridian Dictionary defines self-control as:  restraint exercised over one's own impulses, emotions, or desires.  Methods for restraining impulses, emotions and desires are trial and error; they have evolved and sometimes digressed over the years.  Many times there is a need for medical, spiritual, parental and sometimes other experienced intervention or support as individuals attempt to subdue a created habit, compulsion, deep seated hurt, or lack of healthful discipline.  But even then, left to maintain control in and of our self and we have a crisis in the making.

Many of us have been taught: practice makes perfect; but does it? Truth is, repetition does strengthen what we do; that does not mean it is advantageous for us to focus on whatever it is.   I believe it is most truthful and correct to understand this, “While God perfectly formed us in our mother’s womb, He did not make us perfect.”, and yet many times we simply are not satisfied with His preferences or finding out what they might mature into.  

Most often, we spend our time looking around at the accomplishments of others and decide what WE want to work toward, and thinking we have a plan we devalue God's plan, whether or not it is conscious: James 4:2 you desire because you do not have, you covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. We want what others were given to become and we prefer to strive to obtain the same outcome.   Think about if David had of used Saul's armor instead of a sling shot and stone?  What made sense to warriors wasn't God's design.  David was wise enough to understand he couldn't do it their way, he was created differently.
We cannot discard the subject of devotion to development; when we practice something there will be a type of fruit for our labor to show up.   For this reason, we must understand the wisdom of biblical warnings.  We are also wisely told to understand that there are many forms of success to be obtained, but there is not but one form which is immortal.

1 Corinthians 9: 24-27 (below) is a great bookend for where we opened:

Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but one receives the prize?  Run in such a way that you may obtain it.  And everyone who competes for the prize is temperate in all things.  Now they did it to obtain a perishable crown, but we for an imperishable crown.  Therefore I run thus:  not with uncertainty.  Thus I fight:  not as one who beats the air.  But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.

As you think through all these things and the holy spirit merges God’s truth from your heart and mind with them, please prayerfully ask for wisdom, discernment and the gift of submission upon you.  He has sealed you with the holy spirit to help you see who He perfectly created YOU to become.  

As scary as it can be, if you are willing, to take your eyes off of what he has done in others (except to praise Him and rejoice with them) and away from being discovered, to turn toward Him and realize you do not need to be discovered but UNcovered, and are willing to wait, "He will make what is invisible visible, by the power of His spirit in His time, for His glory. " 

Just wait and see!

In Christ,


© 2015 by Candace Huffmaster
 Kaleidoscope Butterfly, Inc ®

August 8, 2015

What's It To You?

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Do not be deceived, my beloved brethren, every good gift and every perfect gift is from above and comes down from the Father of Lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning.  of His own will He brought us forth by word of truth, that we might be a kind of first fruits of His creatures. ~James 1:16-18

As we all live, learn and grow in what we know, God uses everything to deconstruct our thoughts and past experiences in order to enable us to not give up and quit.  It is His will, in time we truly can stop being tempted any longer by evil, because He does not tempt us and He cannot even be tempted.  He is trying to help us comprehend this fact: the only way we can be tempted is due to self interest which entice us to do what "we want".

Before, during and after I am being lead to study a topic, God gives me all sorts of experiences to maneuver throughout.  These raise up my knowledge, emotions, memories and God's truth, all together.  When they intersect I have choices to make; this is true for all of us.  I have been praying, for months, for Christ to subdue me unto Himself.  I started this when nothing was going on; it was simply and an honest request out of obedience, willingly.  I do not desire to wait till I have no other options or it is by force.  I'm not that strong - most humans could break me like a pencil ;)

Thus far, this is what I have learned on the topic.  I share it just in case someone else is being lead through this same journey.  If you have something to add, please contact me or comment and share it with everyone else:

We all are asked to help out with things from time to time, which are not our job or on our agenda.  We also just want to help without being asked sometimes.  What ever we know about their processes, personality or desired outcome should be taken into consideration; we should attempt to apply, at minimum the same standard they do.  If we are not willing to do that, we should be forth coming.  If we are doing it unprovoked, we should think it through and chose another task which we"are" willing to fulfill the task as they do.

Not everyone, but most people have a charitable side; they want to help when they have done all they want to do, in their spare time.  Our conscience tell us there are needs going unmet.  When we serve due to guilt, we cut corners.  The reason is simple, we are attempting to quiet our guilt.  Bonus is that next time our conscience pricks us we will have ample ammunition to retaliate and silence it.

God's truth is what brings the condemnation upon us.  He tells us the universe is aware; the words have gone out since the beginning of time and they will not be silenced.  We are to serve others as though we are serving Christ.  This means we are to do it with the same conviction, pretense and countenance which He had.  His heart longed to express and exemplify whom He was serving: God, our creator, as if He was the one doing it. God does not cut corners, duck out on the yuck work, or withhold any good thing from those who: walk upright, ask without doubt, fear Him. But not just those, He also does good to everyone without being asked to do it.

We must always remember, however, many times people truly ARE simply doing the best they can and it IS a gift!  We should accept those gifts with humility and express our gratitude with encouragement toward the giver. However, when a person knows what to do and chooses to carry out a different action, as if no one will know the difference- to that person it is sin.  And that sin is toward the other person and against God.  After all it is God alone we serve.  This verse in James 4 has been weaving in and out all things for months with me:

Therefore, to the one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin.  

What we know to be truth and do not do, whether we are sick, tired or sick & tired, God knows and it does not matter what the rest of the universe knows, thinks, see or what ever.  Will we be humble enough to request that He multiply and be fruitful regarding His image and likeness, and to constantly subdue our human nature, that we might have a hope of becoming what He Divinely created us to be?

My prayer for our Body is of course to be One; of One Faith.  Specifically I desire for us to be kind, tender-hearted toward each other and to just do what we know is right in His eyes ~ for He tenderly loves and cares for each of us with out fail.  

In Christ - Kisses,

He is able even to subdue all things to Himself ~ Philippians 3:10

  © 2015 by Candace Huffmaster
 Kaleidoscope Butterfly, Inc ®

July 13, 2015

We've Considered An Agenda Change

There is a way which seems right to a man, But its end is the way of death. Even in laughter the heart may be in pain, And the end of joy may be grief ~ Proverbs 14:12-13

We all have a reason for everything we do.  God calls it the "intent of our heart".  Without being confronted, how often will we investigate or control ours?  Will we consider our perception regarding:  "What is in it for us?"  and "What is in it for the other person/s?" When we are utilizing the fruit of the spirit, self control, we will do this on the front end; not when being called on the carpet by another or convicted, as the Holy Spirit is grieved.

We know that God is patient, and His mercy and grace endures forever.  Many people believe that there is always time to do what they want today, then just before dying they can repent once and for all. Maybe that is nothing more than putting a selfish spin on Christ dying once for all (1Peter 3:18).When it comes to our perception of God, some of us humanize His character and motivations to justify our ambivalence toward Him.

We pervert the "intent of God's heart" concerning money, time, relationships, decisions and what we do to have fun.  We call what we want good and Him too controlling, or evil by doing that. The truth is, He is not interested in placing burdens upon us, no matter what we lie we are willing to plaster on Him.  I am not making this stuff up, here are just a couple of ways He tried to tell us:

 1 John 5:3: For this is the love of God, that we keep Him commandments; and His commandments are not burdensome.  
Matthew 11:29,30 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light?

These scriptures, when overwhelmed sound amazing, that is why we call it "amazing grace".   At that point we shout "YES! Hook me up to some Jesus-Amen!" Or maybe it is when we face the end of life in some way; we all are unsettled by death for one reason or another. For some of us there was a time when we were afraid, if we were to die, we would go to hell. For others they have pondered "if" there might actually BE a hell.

However we got to the intersection, the road narrowed and we had a decision to make: Heaven or hell? With no other options on the table but heaven or hell,  we could say right or left, accepting Jesus Christ, as savior, just makes good sense, if that is what we chose. When given an option between no more sorrow, death, crying or pain, verses, utter darkness, weeping and gnashing of teeth, who would not chose Heaven over Hell.

Here is what we do not stop to think about: Those travelers only want what they receive from Christ.  I would venture as far to say, they would just as soon choose Satan if he handed them a map called Short Cut to "the other entrance".  I will even take it a bit further and consider: What if Satan said "We are changing the environment of Hell,  misery, torment and eternal damnation are off the agenda now".  "But wait, there's more~ AND you can continue to be focused on yourself,  And not have to mess with "other peoples" feelings"!  Can't you hear people shouting and applauding "I'm in ~ it sounds like a hell of a place!"

What he/Satan doesn't want them to see is this:  When all the true Christians are gone, there will be no one they can trust,  except when a person will be getting something in return.  They will protect you as long as you have something to offer them.  But that is not real, if they trust in that they are foolish - so ultimately nothing will be real, not even their own motives. (not to mention, there is not another entrance)

When a person hears the truth of the gospel and understands that Christ came because we had no hope of escaping eternal separation from the Holy One.  He, Christ, had to allow us to take everything He was given and giving with no return at all on the front end.  His loving kindness and suffering was devalued and counted as nothing.  Just like God's love for us, which is what empowered Christ to be able to do this.  He/Christ in return values our lives and counts what we've done as nothing in light of the possibilities / Gods mercy and grace.  To this day we continue to defend ourselves, distort His character and refuse to accept the gravity of who we really act like.  But God is patient, Christ sympathizes and the Holy Spirit, though grieving, keeps on keeping on 24/7, within/ for the one / believer who's focus isn't on being saved, but on knowing the ONE who saves.

It is only these people who will, in fact, BE saved; the others won't have spent time with Him, getting to know Him and changing into the image of the recognized Son of God, as the result of their time together.  And it is by His name, character and integrity that we are indeed becoming the Sons of God. Why do you think Christ told us that this conversation will happen:

"Many will say to Me on that day, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?' 23"And then I will declare to them, 'I never knew you; DEPART FROM ME, YOU WHO PRACTICE LAWLESSNESS.'

If I can have just a few more seconds: Please think about what you are here for: Is it that you desire not to be seen in all your shamefulness, or if you see your shamefulness, are you repulsed to the point of giving back all that you've taken plus interest to those whom you've taken from? That is how we demonstrate, as Christ did, that God is at the helm of our life not us.

If not being able share in the spotlight; getting something in return; if it is a struggle to delay getting what you want prior to giving toward something else seems unfair; or if you cannot defend yourself when someone accuses you, but rather, just have to own it for what it is - not being able to at least insert your efforts, can commonly become deal breakers for you ......Then I'd say, "You are in a hell of a place my friend!"

Today, I pray that we may all do more than "know" we are sinners; may we BE ever changing, day by day, till He returns for US. For He is our Father, He is "here for us" and will not be a burden upon us.  Amen!



© 2015 by Candace Huffmaster
 Kaleidoscope Butterfly, Inc ®

July 8, 2015

My Own Initiative and Right

And why do you not even on your own initiative judge what is right? Luke 12:57 
Then you will discern righteousness and justice and equity and every good course. For wisdom will enter your heart and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.  Proverbs 2:9,10

 We are still on the topic of God shaking things up, in and around our life.  He does this to continually give us the opportunity to find out what we look like and who we intrinsically are outside of "human opinions".  Those are never reliable; as my dad said to me "people are only going to tell you what they "want you to know".  The rest comes in broken, shattered pieces if we get them at all, more often than not.

God does not come toward us and create trembling situations to cause us to shrink back.  We discuss often that He implores us not to shrink back to the destruction of our soul, but as Hebrew 4:16 says:

Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

He continually shows great patients with us as He contends with evil ways.  He allows us to do the same things over and over till we know that we know we've done something that is not good.  And we know by this point God has given us enough rope to call our actions evil with intent. But God doesn't think like us and Christ is much more gracious than us mere mortals.  Instead of calling us on the carpet, when we are His children, He simply addresses an issue without sugar coating yet surprisingly without shaming us.

This is a very familiar story, but from this point of view we just may learn something deeper, Luke 10:38-42

Now as they went on their way, Jesus a entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord's feet and listened to his teaching. But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary.Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.”

How much of our attention goes toward thinking about someone else's behavior?  How much of our prayer life is spent requesting God's involvement toward the modifications of another person's actions? Why do we not stop and bend our knee before Him, thinking soberly and giving an account of ourselves before His throne?

Most of the time we are anxious and troubled about many things, but not the ONE NECESSARY THING. We through out a lot of distractions, diversions tactics, smoke and false images.  Much like the Wizard of Oz, we get good at disguising our true identity.  When many people believe our propaganda, we begin to call to claim it; calling what is evil, good....till some brave soul calls us on the carpet.

We are no different with God than we are with humans.  In fact, God tells us if we cannot be honest with people we will never be honest with Him, a God we cannot see.  It is hard to hide things from easily from most humans, but it is easy to fool ourselves into believing a God we cannot see, cannot see what we think, do and say.

God gave us relationships in a tactile form, in real time to help us, actually to save us.  If we will desire those relationships He calls good and call the evil relationships evil and act Godly toward them, then He will surely bless our lives and be a blessing unto them.  Let's end today with Romans 14:10-13

Why do you pass judgment on your brother? Or you, why do you despise your brother? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God; for it is written,“As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.”So then each of us will give an account of himself to God. Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother. 
I pray that each of us approach His throne boldly, bend our knees and give a clear account of our self and then just give amazing thanks for His grace - can we resolve just this one thing?

For Christ and His Glory,

© Candace Huffmaster 2015, All Copy Rights Reserved
Kaleidoscope Butterfly, Inc°

June 24, 2015

My Goody Bag Stinks!

I searched everywhere, determined to find wisdom and to understand the reason for things. I was determined to prove to myself that wickedness is stupid and that foolishness is madness. ~ Ecclesiastes 7:25 NLT

As a child we are taught what to do and how to do it.  It is our parents, or those with whom we are placed helplessly, which form the mesh of moral fiber upholding the weigh of every thought we conceive. It is out from this generational goody bag where we must begin to discern: What goodies do I want from this gift bag or is really a goody bag at all.  The truth is most of the stuff we have in our pretty cellophane  is nothing more than a mess of broken feelings, opinions and knowledge which have little to do with God's truth. They are memories formed out from good intentions, and possibly, usually, good intentions gone wrong.  The fact is, usually when we rely on a goody bag without holding it accountable to God's good ways, it is more of a trash bag in need of being separated into waste and recyclables.

At some point the child becomes the next generation and they are accountable for the gift bags they extend.  This maturity / wisdom begins with a grown up perspective: Just because "something" brings me happiness does not mean my feelings are aligned with God's will: if a person, place or thing is really good for me and trust worthy. Neither does it mean that our feelings of unhappiness are accurate in whether something is truly good for us or not.  The point is, just like a child, instinctively we do what we believe will make us happy.  And what makes all of us happy is to have people around us who enjoy us, see how special we are and won't ask too many questions which make us squirm, or shake us up.

This is where we left off:

Without being shook, we will never realize we can be shaken.  If we do not know we have a need, we can not ask for help.  When we do not need help, we never look up for God.  And with out God we are mere mortals......and mere mortals come to an end in this life. 

Let's merge these two tracks: When we are doing what we believe to be good, even expected and we are not receiving the appropriate outcome, it creates confusion. It is as if someone is holding out a "goody bag" but there does not seem to be any good thing within it.  Or maybe we feel that the bag is being withheld and given to others, when it rightfully is our turn to have a grab.  When our happiness gets interrupted our happy train comes to a halt; because a train cannot run on two tracks. It is at this intersection we must pause and ask: what is the truth here, which way should I pursue. This verse from Jeremiah is a KB cornerstone:
This is what the Lord says: 'stand at the cross road and look,  ask for the ancient paths, where the good way is and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls'.  But you said,  'we will not walk in it'. Jer 6:16
Usually we do not pause, we go full steam ahead till something causes a major road block.  God calls it a stumbling block, the narrow path which we and all our goodies cannot pass through.  He lovingly warns us that our words and actions must equal, or we are not being honest with Him, others or our self.

What happens when a persons words and actions do not equal?  Well......it hurts others.....and it hurts the relationship.  It changes everything: them, you and the good that God had planned for you; because you are not asking what the good is and generously giving it.  We hide these things even from our own heart, we allow our heart to become deceived; we harden our hearts to our unrighteousness, paint it pretty, talk it up and point it out with a bit of flair.

If we continue down this path, it will soon become hauntingly ugly.  Our efforts must become dedicated toward: deflection, manipulation, creating a distance between the sweet relationships and activities God has blessed us with.....if we want to continue to believe we are doing what He considers good, that is.  As long as we are doing something good and can give honor to God is it really manipulation, are we really withholding or stealing their goodies? Is it really something another person should speak up about?  What about those who might be benefiting from our motives and who do not really question why they are receiving a goody bag, should it be given elsewhere?  Is it their place to question a gift?

We will pause here for the day, I pray for wisdom and discernment in each of our lives.  May the grace of God and His Righteousness bear witness to each of us this day.

In Christ, Kisses,

© Candace Huffmaster 2015, All Copy Rights Reserved
Kaleidoscope Butterfly, Inc°

June 2, 2015

Not Again, Are You Kidding ME!

This expression, "Yet once more," denotes the removing of those things which can be shaken, as of created things, so that those things which cannot be shaken may remain.   ~ Hebrews 12:27

As you know it has been almost an entire month since I have been able to pause and post.  Each year when the school systems release their students, it is reminds me of a race: the starter shooting his pistol and the runners fleeing their mark for the open lanes. Never-the-less when I do return it is always with matured comprehension of what I felt was already understood.  This year has been no less insightful / challenging.

After years of dealing with similar situations, and / or the same families, over this stretch of time, I have come to realize, the crisis is not usually with what's happening, but rather with the individuals thoughts in the midst of what's happening. (Do not confuse this topic with making a safety plan and leaving an abuser. click the Emergency or The Cause Is Love tab on our website for resources.)

As we have discussed often: Usually God does not change our circumstance or environment; he changes us in the midst of a troubled and chaotic world. Think about how similar events continually happen to us.  But our frame of mind, attention and environment will be altered in someway every time; much like the movie Groundhog day.  Each nuance creates an opportunity; the opportunity we run off the mark for is our choice.  God is mindful, merciful and gracious to not allow temptation to overtake us; but we will have another time, if necessary to pass the test. (1 Peter 1:6)

God lovingly put obstacles in the middle of our pathway.  These are not because He is mean or angry with us; it is to train us up in the things we can not know otherwise.  His ways are not of this world; which means He must find the way which refocuses our attentions toward His kingdom.  Obviously, we can have knowledge and think that is enough.  But without unpacking it and trying it out we only get to know His words; not the person who said them.

Without regular diverse challenges, we humans have a tendency to become too confident in the assessment of our own proficiency.  Without knowing it we go rogue as we try to make it to God.  God never intended to make it difficult or dependent on our own abilities to cross into His Kingdom.  He sets multiple challenges to give us practice, stretch our faith and trust muscle. It is in the challenges where we realize our natural frailties.  If we become weakened to the point of shaking, God just may be given an opportunity to show off His supernatural capabilities. At least that is His will in our time of need.  

Without being shook, we will never realize we can be shaken.  If we do not know we have a need, we can not ask for help.  When we do not need help, we never look up for God.  And with out God we are mere mortals......and mere mortals come to an end in this life.

This is enough for today; God rest our souls in His peaceful presence, both now and forever.


© Candace Huffmaster 2015, All Copy Rights Reserved
Kaleidoscope Butterfly, Inc°